On Xbox I have lost the 6 digit number for allowing my son to accept friends how do I reset...

Hi Kate! I'm Rostom, an Independent Advisor. I will be glad to help you here.

I believe you're referring to an Xbox PIN? If so, you can delete your PIN using the steps below:

Press the Xbox button to open the guide.
Go to Profile & system > Settings > Account > Sign-in, security & PIN > Delete my PIN.

You can learn more about it here https://support.xbox.com/en-US/help/family-onli...

Actually, I have this issues as well. I have both the digital and the hard copy of fortnite and when I put it in one of my xbox (I have 5 of them} it will not allow my son to play save the world even though the disc was in. I also game share and thought
that my digital copy was interfering with it so I deleted my profile but with that I lost the ability to game share with my son due to the number of accidental switches. So I pay $120 in live subs to allow 4 of us to play. I even did a system reset and it
still will not play save the world for him with the disc.

Microsoft had a family option in the past, I don't recall the reason they do not offer it now. If you think about it they do allow you to do the same thing as most streaming services. The 'Home Xbox' concept allows you to share games across two systems.
Services like Netflix and others do the same and limit the number of streams you can have going at any given time.

I am in the same situation as you. I have my X and my two sons have S versions. I run two Gold accounts and two GamePass subscriptions. This allows all three of us to play together. My oldest has the Xbox that my youngest plays on setup as his 'Home
Xbox' so anyone that logs in gets full Gold access and can play the digital games in my oldest sons library. My oldest uses the other Xbox and being he is logged in each time he can download and play games with his brother.

I have an older Xbox in my media room that is setup as my Home Xbox but I normally use the one in my office. If a friend is over, they can log in to the media room and play my games and digital library most of which is similar to my oldest sons.

HI I JUST BUT XBOX 360 KINECT MY SON PUT THE 4 DIGIT CODE HE FORGET THE NUMBER WHAT CAN I DO

On the status page it says "We are aware of an issue members are having sending and receiving messages, seeing friend's statuses, sending or receiving game and party invites, and accepting friend requests on Xbox LIVE."

Does that have to do with the people like us who just lost all of our friends? I also lost my background.