My Xbox game updates are huge way larger than the normal size close to Game size

The size of the update varies from game to game, it is normal for some to be larger than others.

Yes, this is the normal size for xbox one, but for xbox one x, the size becomes larger when you install it. And my game does not see any outcrops and the resolution in the game does not increase in the settings

Game sizes can vary, but in general they are going to be much larger than 360 games basically due to different technology. So that is very normal.

"For games of this size? It's normal. I log in and I get hit with multi-GB updates to a swath of titles around the same size."

I doubt that. I'm only just chatting about this statement of yours with some Steam buddies. They've seen a few multi GB updates and own 100-250 games, and no, they aren't indie games either. It's just as normal as the huge updates we had for BF3. No idea
what games you have do get huge updates but don't start claiming they're suddenly all so normal, either.

Sorry to hear that you are missing out. Unfortunately Microsoft can't reduce the size of a game and still keep it functional. The size of the game on disc is the same size as what you would download. The only thing you can do is acquire a larger storage
device to hold games of a larger size such as this.