Locating server (Minecraft)

You can verify that your console or that of your friend are not in the insider program and some of them have a beta version installed

Hi Nancy,

Thank you for posting on the Xbox forums. I'd be happy to help troubleshoot the issue.

From your description, it sounds like the issue might be stemming from your friend's saved world since you can both join general servers, you can join other friend's servers, and nobody else seems to be able to join your friend's personal server.

What device is your friend playing on? Have either of you create a new world for testing to see if you can join each other at all?

It could be that the world is corrupted and hangs when trying to join multiplayer.

I would also recommend a hard reboot of both devices.

Hey there NancyKitchen

Thanks for reaching out to the Forums community for advice on how hopefully to get connected to your friend's game. I can understand how this could totally dampen your gaming experience.

Is this the only game you guys are having problems with?

I would say that is the case, I would definitely try getting in touch with
Mojang's support directly as they would have the best info as to whether or not there's something up with their servers.

When you get a chance, get in contact with them and let us know if that helped.

Thanks for reading!

Neither of us have the insider program on the consoles that we are using (xbox one). We have also rebooted both of our consoles, and it still has not worked, and we have both stated new games, and are not able to join them.

ALSO help me its not a realm a server and pls help me fix it pls for gods sakes ive tried and ive work my life off help