I have a friend on switch who I'm trying to play with over Xbox, but it keeps asking me to...

Hello, danpDI. Thanks for reaching out. I'm Lucas, an Independent Advisor and a Microsoft user just like you.

If it's asking you to update your privacy settings, you need to update it on your Xbox or on your browser on a computer.

To update it on Xbox:
Press the Xbox button to open the guide.
Select Profile & system > Settings > Account > Privacy & online safety > Xbox privacy.
Select the Adult default settings, or customize your settings by selecting View details & customize. If you customize it, set all of them as Allow or Everyone.

To update it on the web:
Go to https://www.xbox.com/
Select your gamertag, and then select the More actions button (…).
Select Xbox settings, and then select Privacy & online safety.
Set Allow or Everybody for your settings on the three tabs: Xbox Series X|S, Xbox One, and Windows 10 devices Online Safety tab and the Privacy tab.

If you have a child account, an adult will need to change your privacy settings.

If you need anything else or have any question, please let me know.

I was wanting to play with my friend who plays on switch but i cant add his microsoft account when i am on my xbox

He has to add you via email, I'm pretty sure. I'm not a big switch person, but my friend is and that's what they told me.

I would like to play a game with you, but first, may I just say that I used to be loud and quite humorous, but that was only around my friends. Then my friends got bored of me, which made me more quiet and shy. The reason i'm saying this is because I feel
that the same thing happened to you. Sorry if it's not my place to ask, but I have just been trying to find someone I can relate to.

Also I have a bit of advice that I tell myself to keep me strong. "The question isn't who's gonna let me... The question is who's gonna stop me"

Just send me a Friend Request anytime, sometimes though, i'm too caught up, being as I'm a student, and I have friends who play fun games, if i'm not playing the game you want, sometimes all you need to do is send me a friend request and a message my way.

-You Never Know, oh, now you know, okay.-Anonymous guy who I asked a random question.

As a long time user of the xbox I feel the need to ask "Why is this release such a constant battle?" I have many friends who are disappointed with the let downs of Microsoft over the release of this new system and are switch platforms going to the Play Station.
Headset, legacy games all the new and wonderful things that MS wont do unless there is gamer outrage. Why all the fuss just give us what we deserve as loyal xbox users who love gaming!

MA