i have a ban i need it of

Questions regarding account suspensions are handled by the Xbox Live Policy & Enforcement Team. If you have disputes regarding the suspension that was implemented on your account, we suggest that you submit a case review. Refer to this link for
the steps on how to submit a case review.

If you have other concerns, don't hesitate to get back to us anytime. We'd be glad to provide you additional assistance.

Xbox Enforcement does not use the forums and the only way to get help is through the enforcement website.

You can find out more information about your ban here-
https://enforcement.xbox.com/en-US/enforcement/showenforcementhistory

If you feel that the ban was wrongly imposed, check out-https://enforcement.xbox.com/en-US/home/howto#sub-topic0-6 to find out more info about case reviews

This FAQ/enforcement myths might also be helpful- https://enforcement.xbox.com/en-US/home/howto#sub-topic0-5?

Go to the Enforcement website for more details about your suspension:
http://enforcement.xbox.com

Xbox Support and the forums do not deal with account suspensions.

You may see your "arguments" as civil but the person receiving them may well see them as harassing and threatening. Best thing is to not message other gamers because you were angry about how they played a game. You can use the mute and block feature on a
gamers profile, which should stop you being teamed with them in future.

As already stated, the Enforcement site is the only place to conduct a review of a suspension. Though I doubt they will reduce a suspension that has been handed out.

Good day

Unfortunatly we in the forums do not have access to the system. You will need to check on the Enforcement website if you are eligible for a case review.

If the case review fail you will need to wait out the ban/suspension.