I can't link my xbox account with my steam account

Hello NETHERKNIGHT497, this is Manuela. I'm an Independent Advisor and community user like you, ready to assist with this.
Not a Microsoft employee.

I saw similar reports from other players recently, this could be an ongoing issue.
I can recommend you to report the inconvenience to both the Xbox team and Steam support.

You can report this to Xbox by clicking below:
https://support.xbox.com/xbox-live-status
Or messaging their Twitter profile:
https://twitter.com/xboxsupport?s=21

i have xbox app and steam,.my steam account and my friend account steam ,we both of them linked already to microsoft ,

Hello!

I'm an independent advisor and a member of the Xbox Community just like you.

I'm happy to help you today.

You can try to do it in the following ways:

- From Game Bar

Press Windows logo key + G to open Game Bar.

Select Settings > Accounts.

Sign in to the Xbox network (most linked accounts require it), choose a social network from the list, press Link and then follow the prompts.

- From the Xbox app for PC

Press the Start button and then choose Xbox from the list.

Select Profile & settings in the upper-right corner (it's your gamerpic if you're already signed in), and then choose Settings > Account.

Sign in to the Xbox network, choose a social network from the list, press Link, and then follow the prompts.

- From the mobile app

Launch the Xbox mobile app on your device and tap on the account gamerpic to show your profile.

Tap Link social accounts.

From here, clicking each option will launch your default browser to the service login page for each link you wish to add.

If neither way works, please wait 24 to 48 hours and try to link again.

I hope the information has been clear, I will be attentive to any questions you may have.

Best Regards.

Ok thank you. I can't use xCloud as my internet is slow as I am in rural Australia. Can I link my steam and Xbox Live accounts?

- there is option in Xbox (beta) app.

{Parity} its looking like it is problem with Xbox app because i have gray screen in Xbox app.

The link I attached give the instructions on how to link the account and troubleshooting steps, if that is not helping there may be a bug and you should report it through the feedback option.