I can leave minecraft beta but it then wants to update to the beta

Hi, if your Xbox is using the insider update odds are you could be enrolled into the Minecraft beta. If that's the case you'll need to leave the Minecraft beta, see the link below.

https://feedback.minecraft.net/hc/e...8671-How-to-Join-and-leave-the-Minecraft-Beta

Hi Henderson,

Thanks for coming to the forums with your question. We understand you are having issues with Minecraft Beta. You can view the guide on

how to join or leave Minecraft beta. Try this out and let us know. You may also want to post on the
Minecraft forums.

Thanks,

Brad

Hi,

The Xbox one update preview is basicly beta. A few bugs or issues my appear in the preview update if the headset worked before your boyfriend accepted the invite, you may want to consider to post the bug on the Xbox One preview update forum and too leave
the preview updates as it is un-stable because it's beta.

If you do not want to leave the beta updates please contact me back and I will see what I can do.

Thanks,

Owen

Pretty sure beta builds can only play with other beta builds.

Edit: Yup, first bullet.

Minecraft Beta FAQ

Make sure that you or your friends are not on Minecraft Beta, because if you are on beta and your friends not on beta (vice versa), then you two will not be able to connect to each other at all. Also if both of you are on beta make sure that you are in
the same version (which you can check from the Minecraft home menu). If you or your friends are on the beta program I would personally recommend leaving it, sure you get early access to updates which is great, but its alot more hassle then its worth.