How can I play others?

Hello, Mike P. I'm Arturo, and I'll be glad to provide assistance with your inquiry today.

Yes, you can play with other people, even if they're not living in your city, state, or country.

The first thing you need to do is add this person's gamertag to your friends list.

How to add new friends:

https://support.xbox.com/help/friends-social-activity/friends-groups/add-friends

The second thing is acquiring a Game Pass Core or Ultimate (includes Core) subscription because paid games, like the one you mentioned, require this type of subscription to use online features, like playing with others.

https://www.xbox.com/xbox-game-pass/core

Then, to invite a friend to play with you in this game, I found an article that may help you.
Let me list the steps:

“Go to the ‘Casual’ section of the main menu with either LT/RT or L1/R1.
Choose ‘Online Match’.
You can choose from a selection of game modes, including Head-to-Head and Divot Derby. To start a Topgolf game, you’ll need to go to the Topgolf section and follow the same steps.
To play with your mates, you can ‘Create Private Match’ to build a room that you can invite your friends into.
You’ll need to find the friends you want to play with from your friend list and press X/Square to send an invite to them.
If you get an invite, simply accept it. There may be a room code, and when you reach that screen, you can press RS/R3 to reveal it.
Online Societies offers you the chance to build an online league that will track every time you play with your friends on 2K23.
The invite process is the same, but you can change the Society Style – Casual and Simulation are options – while also ensuring it remains private.”

Reference link:
https://www.givemesport.com/88073661-pga-tour-2k23-how-to-play-with-your-friends/

I hope you find this answer helpful to your inquiry. However, I'll remain attentive to any other one you may have.

Kind regards,

Arturo.

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i forgot to mention that im only using a router?i have checked that guide a trillion times and activated upnp but nothing worked,thank you for trying to help though Fitzer.PS:i can't talk to ambassadors either

Hey LT, there are some other steps to try besides just forwarding ports. Have you had a chance to take a look at steps 1-3 in
this guide?

my d-link router does not say if it is open or not,i do not get the warning either. i have already opened the correct ports

It sounds like you have a problem with your connections NAT type. A NAT type that is either 'Strict' or 'Moderate' will have major problems connecting to online games.

NAT issues

http://forums.xbox.com/xbox_forums/xbox_support/f/9/t/7448.aspx

What is NAT?

http://www.xbox.com/en-US/Live/EngineeringBlog/NATs-and-xbox-live

http://www.unofficialguidetolive.co.uk/faqs/62-my-nat-is-strict-or-moderate