Game chat can talk but not hear?

You need to change that in the console settings, audio, first collum chat output, headset or both depending on what you are looking

Hi J4k117! My name is Ricardo an independent advisor ready to help you with this situation!

After plugging the headset the game chat keeps coming trough the TV?

I said across all games and i cant update a headset, being a Microsoft headset makes no difference. My controller is up to date

Hello @J4k117!

Would you please provide us with further information regarding this matter.

• Does this happen in only one game or all of the games?
  
• Have you tried updating the headset as well as your controller?
  
• Is the headset is a Microsoft one?
  

This clarification would aid in allowing us to provide the proper troubleshooting for this situation.

Would you please check if the sound configured in the Xbox to go to speakers or to Headset. You can check by going to System > Settings > General > Volume & audio output. From there you'll be able to check output and chat mixer. See if any of those settings might be preventing audio from coming through the headset.