Can xbox make it to where you have a warning before being banned or suspended???

They consider your warning the code of conduct/terms of service you agreed to when you signed up.

They don't send warnings. The code of conduct/terms of service you agree to when you signed up are considered the warnings.

But they approve it then suspended for it doesn't make sense if Xbox has to verify to say its okay then to suspend me for them approving. Otherwise the picture would have not been uploaded correct. So why does the individual pay for something the company approved?

The New Agreement. States clearly "or by continuing to use the services after being notified of the change of these terms" so I ask again where was my notice? Read the new agreement fully before you respond because it clearly says after being notified.

There is no set amount of times.

You can be permanently banned without ever being suspended or you can have several minor suspensions before being banned.

Depends on the severity of the offence/offence's you commit as well as how many times you been suspended.

Best rule is to not break the rules in the first place then you wont have to worry about being banned permanently.

...Yes playstation has similar rules but they give out warnings for profanities before they ban and remove plus. I just cant get my head around why xbox is so rigid on their rules. I hear kids on games saying everything under the sun and nothing
happens to them. So how can you justify 1 message for a ban?

Playstation might need to have warnings, because their system doesn't allow for PSN ID changes, and without a warning, they would immediately ban the account completely.

Consider the TEMPORARY suspensions for 24 hours as your warning.

Microsoft continues to WARN you for a week, then a month, and eventually after enough warnings happened on your account, they then permanently suspend you from the Live service.

As you say for yourself: People tend not to read stuff. So Microsoft doesn't bother to send a warning, that goes unread anyways.

But being unable to use something for 24 hours usually gets the point across as a warning.

There is no set amount of times you can be suspended before you are permanently banned.

If a violation is severe enough you can be banned for a first offence.

If you keep receiving any type of enforcement action then eventually you will be perma banned no matter how far apart the suspensions are.

Once you receive enforcement action then that stays on your account record for ever.

Simple way to avoid a perma ban is to stop violating the ToU/CoC.

In that case, any idea how many enforcements I have left till im banned?

As stated previously there is no set amount of times you could be suspended before being banned.

You could be banned after 1 enforcement action depending on the severity.

If you make yourself familiar with the code of conduct and follow the rules then you wont have to worry about being suspended further/banned.