can not use minecraft pocket edition connect to win10 edition by xbox live

I have the same exact problem I can't play Mcpe multiplayer on xbox live, it tells me I need to change my privacy and online safety settings.

Minecraft pocket edition can only be connected to a Xbox when on the same internet connection as the console

https://support.xbox.com/games/game-titles/minecraft-version-differences

Playing Minecraft between devices and platforms

You can play Minecraft: Windows 10 Edition with other devices running Minecraft: Pocket Edition, such as Windows 10 and Windows Phone devices.
If you have Minecraft: Apple TV Edition, you can play locally with other players running a version of Minecraft: Pocket Edition. Visit Minecraft: Apple TV Edition overview
for more info.

Minecraft: Xbox 360 Edition can only be played with other Xbox 360 consoles on Xbox Live. The Xbox One edition can only be played online with other Xbox One consoles. There is no cross-platform play between the Xbox editions and other editions of Minecraft.

I don’t have a console. I’m playing Minecraft pocket edition with my friends using the XBox live app. Can i do a multiplayer connection test some other way? Thanks for your help!

With Minecraft: Windows 10 Edition, you can connect and play online with friends on Pocket Edition as well as the Xbox One Edition. However, until the full rollout of the upcoming Better Together update for Minecraft, you aren't able to connect to servers
outside of realms and what I've previously mentioned.