Xbox Wireless Headset. Needs a setting to not turn on my xbox.

For suggestions like this, you'll want to post at https://www.reddit.com/r/xboxinsiders/wiki/ideas/

Is the headset switched to Xbox mode? The new Microsoft bluetooth/xbox wireless headsets work in either bluetooth or xbox mode, but not both at the same time. You need to make sure it's in Xbox mode to pair it with your Xbox console.

support.xbox.com/.../set-up-bluetooth-wireless-headset

What of these do you had?

- Xbox 360 Wireless Headset with Bluetooth support.xbox.com/.../set-up-bluetooth-wireless-headset

- Xbox 360 Wireless Headset
support.xbox.com/.../set-up-wireless-headset

One of the suggestions (any of the troubleshoot says anything about loosing the LIVE connection) is yo check there's not metal objects near you and the console, also had the headset charged and be "close" to the console to get a good signal of the headset
and stuff.

Also maybe is an update that could be missing, I suggest clearing the cache and then turn on the headset and if there's an update just do it and check if you can play properly.

Wrong, you do not need the controller on for the headset to work.

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support.xbox.com/.../set-up-bluetooth-wireless-headset

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"A controller is not required for the headset to work with the console."

We recommend following the steps mentioned in the following link to troubleshoot your headset: Troubleshoot your Xbox Wireless Headset | Xbox Support

You need to also make sure that the settings are well adjusted to what's mentioned here => Set up and configure your Xbox Wireless Headset | Xbox Support