xbox privacy settings not applying.

first of all thank you for replying

in the topic, im doing the settings on the second link because in the first link nothing appears

Hello! My name is Ben a fellow member here in the community, not a Microsoft employee. Hope you are doing well!

With regards to the settings not applying, did you changed it from the Microsoft family page or the Xbox privacy page? There are 2 things you need to check which is the https://account.microsoft.com/family and the one for the Xbox and Windows privacy safety which is:

https://www.xbox.com/user/settings/privacy-and-...

On the privacy and safety page, make sure you login using the parent or organizer account to manage the settings if you have a child account under your family. From that page you can modify the settings you'd like such as being able to play multiplayer games.

Don't hesitate to post back in the community if you have other questions and we fellow members will try our best to help!

Applying settings in the Xbox Privacy Settings here:
account.xbox.com/.../Settings isn't effective either.

you have to change your privacy and safety settings. https://support.microsoft.com/en-us/help/4482922/xbox-one-online-safety-and-privacy-settings-for-parents-and-kids

um does this also apply to xbox 360, which I'm currently using?

If you're worried about "spies" just apply the privacy settings and cover it with a thick towel.