why is the skill based match making so terrible?!?!?!?!

Hello Ben

You can disable cross play within your Xbox Account Settings but this will Block ALL Platforms, PC, Playstation and Switch. So you will only be able to play with people on Xbox and matchmaking time will be alot slower.

More info can be found below

https://support.xbox.com/en-GB/help/hardware-network/connect-network/multiplayer-cross-network-play

This is most likely to do with the game and the games company and not to do with Xbox. Also stating what game it is might help too.

Hello MARK R! I'm Annanda and I'd be happy to help you with your question.

Like our friend SigmaTheDJ mentioned, you can quickly solve this by turning off the crossplay feature on your Xbox:

To begin, go to “Settings”

Press on “General” and then on "Online safety & family"

Press on “Privacy & online safety”

Choose “Xbox privacy”

Select “View details & customize”

Go down and press on “Communication & multiplayer”

Press on the menu below “You can join cross-network play” and choose “Block”

This can solve it, but the queue time to finds games will be a bit bigger.

As for skill based matchmakings, this depends on the developers, so there is not much Xbox can do, okay?

I hope I was able to answer your questions! Please, if you have any other doubts, we are here to help.

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Best Regards, Annanda.

You can turn off crossplay globally, so you'll only ever be matched up with other Xbox gamers. Here's where to find that setting: -

https://www.makeuseof.com/how-to-turn-off-cross-play-xbox-one-series-x-s/

Obviously, doing that will potentially increase your queue times in games.

As for skill-based matchmaking, some games have it, but it's up to the developer if/how it's implemented.

◦Skill level match making - This game needs match making to be based off of internet connection only.

agreed