Realm Privacy settings error, cannot find setting needed?

Hello I am experiencing this problem with Minecraft im trying to join my friends realms but it said you cannot play minecraft realms because of how your account is set up. You can change your privacy and online settings in aka.ms/account settings
but it never works i cant find privacy settings anywhere it sends me to xbox support everytime. Please help

i cant join my friends and i cant go online

Thank you for your reply. All privacy settings have been verified and are set to “Active” or “Everyone” so there should be no barrier to multi-player games and join groups.

The problem is not that I can’t join a specific Realm. It’s a general problem. Under Play, Minecraft says says “You need permission. You cannot play on Realms because of how your Xbox Live account is set up. This can be changed in your privacy & online safety
settings on Xbox Live."

Hey

thanks for your reply but, i do not have an xbox and only play on my ipad

Hello Chris,

You will need to go onto your Xbox Microsoft account and access the privacy settings via a desktop in order to change your settings.

Please note that if you are trying to play with anyone on different platforms the following must be on allow.

You can play with players outside of Xbox Live
Decide to allow or block multiplayer gaming with players on other gaming services outside of Xbox Live.

Allow

Block

Please let me know if this has helped you.

Kind Regards,

Hello, My name is David. I am an independent advisor, happy to help you today.

If it asks you for a game pass to join your friends in Minecraft, it may be because the kingdom owner has changed the kingdom's privacy settings. If the realm owner has set the privacy settings to “Friends Only,” only players who have an Xbox Game Pass membership will be able to join the realm.

If you're not sure if the kingdom owner has changed their privacy settings, you can ask them directly. If you don't have an Xbox Game Pass membership and want to join the realm, you'll need to purchase a membership or ask the realm owner to change your privacy settings.

I hope this helps.

Best regards.