privacy and online security

🤔 but can you give more info about ehay is going on at all?

It doesnt

Let me join with friends

There is currently a service alert up that is impacting all of Xbox Live https://support.xbox.com/en-US/xbox-live-status

This means your xbox account is a child account. If your xbox account is a child account that can't be changed in any way - even changing the birth date - as your xbox birthdate is connected to the first birthdate entered when creating your account. If that
is so, you will need an adult to create an account, invite you to a family group and change some privacy settings for you. For more info on this contact xbox support about your account: https://support.xbox.com/contact-us

If your microsoft account is an adult account you may be able to access that page but any changes will not take effect for real if your xbox account is a child account. If both are a child/teen account that page will take you to a page about adding a child
account to a family.

Check if you have registered you account under 18+ of age