my Xbox controller keep on paired mod and i can't connect it

Hi 9c8z, my name is Rodrigo. I'm an Independent Advisor and a member of the Microsoft community and I'd love to assist you today.

I am sorry to hear that.

Please, on your computer start bar, search for "Services.msc" and open it.

Scroll down to the bottom of the list and right-click the "Xbox Accessory Management Service"

Select Properties > On this window, change the initialization/startup type to Automatic.

Click OK and restart your computer.

Let me know if it works!

My Xbox Wireless Controller won't connect to my Bluetooth at all but it connects by USB to my computer, it also flashes when I click the pairing button and my Bluetooth is turned on, whenever I go to the pair devices and try to pair the Xbox controller
it doesn't show up. Is there a way I can reset the controller without the console?

Its suppose to flash when pairing also what are you trying to pair it to

i have tried disconnecting it and then reconnecting it and now the controller doesnt work on the laptop at all, it keeps going from connected to paired then back to connected and the xbox logo on the controller is flashing slowly.

I have a similiar issue with my youngeat sons Xbox. The controller was paired as he was playing it,but in mid game play error shows control not paired,connect controller. The controller tries to connect,but the button on the Xbox doesn't seem to work.
Any suggestions?

Yes if the xbox cannot turn on it isn't available to pair with, but this is only when it's unplugged. That means if my kids are using the xbox I can't use the controller for anything else.

Edit: having now re-paired the controller with the PC it seems that turning the controller on is not waking up the xbox, so touch wood the PC pairing has now overwritten the xbox pairing.

That does imply I can't really use it for both if I wanted to, without messing around, but no matter. I do wish there was more sophisticated management of these devices. I just got some Bose noise cancelling BT headphones and I've got them paired with
phone, iPad and two laptops. They can connect to any two at the same time, and you can cycle through them by a switch.