MInecraft: cant see my friends online

Hello I am experiencing this problem with Minecraft im trying to join my friends realms but it said you cannot play minecraft realms because of how your account is set up. You can change your privacy and online settings in aka.ms/account settings
but it never works i cant find privacy settings anywhere it sends me to xbox support everytime. Please help

i cant join my friends and i cant go online

option fail or connection fail

Try checking the options, making sure it isn't a lag issue, and if all else fails redownloading the game if you won't lose tons of info that you had.

Check your host options. When you first start a game go to options and you should be able to see how you have things set up there.

I told this to a different player with the same issue yesterday night.

Go to settings - account - privacy & online safety - (Preview program members will see Xbox live privacy or app privacy it is Xbox live privacy) - Custom - View details & customize - Others can see if you are online, Decide who can see that you are online
and what you are doing.