Minecraft account cannot add friends because of how Microsoft account is setup

When I log in to xbox I can only see one gamertag under my profile (Simon) which was setup for another child. I can't see the one my son, Joe, has (he has a microsoft account setup under me as part of family). How do I get to see this one and change the
settings in xbox to allow Joe to add friends?

Hello everyone,

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Hello Simon,

Thanks for reaching out to the forums. We understand you have question on privacy settings. To change a child's settings you need to log onto your account then go to family. Once in family you will choose the child you want to change. Here is a guide for
troubleshooting online settings. Also you may want to change the cross play here is a guide.

Thanks for coming to the forums with your issue. Sounds like the cross play is not enabled in settings, were you able to look at the
privacy and online settings? We will give you the
steps to change the exact ones for the cross platform use.

1. You will go to the Xbox websiteand sign in.
   
   
   
   
2. Once signed in, click your picture top right corner go to Xbox profile.
   
   
   
   
3. Click on privacy settings.
   
   
   
4. Once in settings, under the picture see Privacy, Xbox One/Windows 10 online safety. Select the Xbox one/Windows 10 online safety.
   
   
   
   
5. You will see you gamertag you are looking for one setting:
   
   
   
   
6. The two you want to make sure say allow and everybody are:
   
   1. "you can play with people outside of Xbox live" set to allow
      
      
      
      
   2. Now click on privacy you are looking for one setting:
      
      "you can communicate outside of Xbox live with voice and text" set to allow
      
      
      
      

Hope this helps.

Brad

I went through your steps but I am still getting the same error message when my son tries to "add friend" in Minecraft. What else can I do?

Same– this did nothing. I am still getting the same error message.