joining multiplayer games on minecraft

From Minecraft/Microsoft -

https://minecraft.net/en-us/article/minecraft-multiplayer-server-safety

“Join Multiplayer Games” Settings
If you have your settings set to block joining multiplayer games, you can’t join any multiplayer games in Minecraft, including shared local worlds, Realms or servers. To enable multiplayer in Minecraft, make sure this setting is set to ‘Allow.’

However, just like ASCllnaut, that setting was already turned on for my children. In other words I'm in the same boat, we can play on the LAN but not on a realm.

Dear Temiloluwa Akinyemi

Thank you for posting in the Microsoft community.

I would like to know what platform or game you are trying to add multiplayer to.

Below you will find the usual settings for adding multiplayer to XBOX or Minecraft.

To enable multiplayer in an Xbox game, follow these steps:

Make sure you have an Xbox Live Gold subscription. Most multiplayer games on Xbox require an Xbox Live Gold subscription to play online with others.

Start the game you want to play multiplayer in.

Look for an option in the game's main menu or settings that allows you to select multiplayer mode or join an online game.

If prompted, sign in to your Xbox Live account.

Follow the on-screen instructions to join a multiplayer game or create a party with friends.

Once you are in a multiplayer game, you can invite friends to join you or join a game with random players.

Enjoy playing with others online in multiplayer mode.

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To enable multiplayer in Minecraft, follow these steps:

Launch Minecraft on your Xbox console.

Make sure you are signed in to your Xbox Live account.

From the main menu, select "Play" and then choose the world you want to play in.

Once in the world, press the Start button on your controller to open the in-game menu.

Select "Invite to Game" to invite friends to join your world or select "Friends" to see a list of your friends who are currently online and invite them to join.

You can also choose to join a friend's world by selecting "Join Friends" from the main menu.

If you want to join a public multiplayer server, select "Servers" from the main menu and browse the list of available servers to join.

Enjoy playing Minecraft with friends in multiplayer mode!

Best wishes

Shawn Z | Microsoft Community Support Specialist

Your friend needs to check if his account privacy and security allows for multiplayer gaming.

it only happens on minecraft, he can play online on other games, and he can play online on minecraft but only when people join him, he can't join others

although our clan is based on Battlefield games, we also play other multiplayer games such as Minecraft, Happy Wars and more. Come join the Wolf Pack

im having the same problem im new to xbox live and I want to play minecraft xbox360 edition on multiplayer and it keeps saying "no games to join"