How do I change my family settings pass code? Idk the code or the answer to the security ...

You’ll need to contact Xbox Support via chat/phone for help resetting the passcode.

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Go to the "My Xbox" menu from the Xbox 360's main menu. Select "System Settings." Choose "Family Settings," then "Console Controls."

Enter any incorrect pass code. A message notifies you that the pass code is incorrect. Choose "Reset Pass Code."

Answer the security question that appears. This question was provided by you when the original pass code was set up.

Enter a new pass code, then confirm it by entering it again. Choose a new pass code reset answer. Select "Done" twice, then "Yes, Save Changes."

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How do I assess my pass code for this and I forgot the answer to my security question

What can I do if I’ve forgotten the pass code I set up for parental controls?

If you’ve forgotten your pass code, you can reset it by answering the pass code question you set up parental controls. Here’s how:

1. On your console, go to Settings, and then select Family.

2. Select a content control setting to change.

3. When you’re prompted, enter any pass code (even though it’s incorrect).

4. When you’re notified that your pass code is incorrect, select Reset Pass Code.

5. When your pass code question appears, use your controller or chat pad to enter the answer, then select Done.

If you can’t remember the answer to your pass code question, you’ll have to contact Xbox Support for further help.

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You could simply add a passcode for your account:

How do I change my pass code?

To change your pass code

On your console, go to Settings, then select Family.

Tip Not seeing Settings? You might be using an older version of the console software. See Update your Xbox 360 console software for information on how to update your console software.

Enter your 4-button pass code.

Select Change Pass Code.

Select Change Pass Code again.

Enter a new 4-button pass code twice.

Select Done.

Select Save and Exit.