Headset wont work, unless I unplug the console before start up

I'm having the same issue. Whenever my xbox turn off it wont turn off so that means no restarting to finish the update. even if i unplug and and get it to start then power it off myself it still wont turn on unless i unplug it and plug it back up

I cant even get my console to start up anymore!! All i did was unplug it and plug it back in and now it wont even power up!

i was using the hdmi cable before. ive tried resetting it with the cables in but it doesnt work as the wireless controller wont connect until the xbox has booted up which it doesnt do unless it has a valid signal to the tv. the controller will just flash
constantly trying to connect but not connecting because the xbox wont fully start up which makes it impossible to reset it with the cables in.

unplug the hdd, fully shutdown console from the power menu in settings, start it back up, then do another full shutdown, then plug hdd in before starting up again, power on the hdd and then start console, if this does not work then the hdd may have gone
completely.

I could get mine to update with the adapter plugged in. I unplugged it and it updated the controller. adapter and stereo headset work fine but now i can't get controller to pair with xbox unless adapter is unplugged.