Am I the only sick of the explicit word stuff they’ve got?

Game ratings have nothing to do with chat and there is code of conduct for a reason. You only get a ban if someone or a few people report you. Sorry you feel this way but rules are there for a reason, shouldn't matter if their your friends or not, you
should respect the rules. One of your friends may have thought the trash talk (if you took part in this) went too far.

bottom line is if you don't do it you won't get banned, its that simple. If they get on your nerves just don't message them

I'm not sick of it at all, that's the rules that Microsoft have set to keep everyone safe while interacting with others on their platform, I avoid breaking the rules, and I haven't had any issues.

I know the rule is a little contradictory to some of the games, but Xbox is looking to create a safe environment for all players. I suggest you use a secondary form of communication outside of Xbox Live if you wish to communicate in a way that violates
the Code of Conduct to avoid a future ban.

Ive recently got banned from messaging on xbox (again) all because i said a swear word. Look. I was playing battlefield 4 all normal whit my friend, and we swear to each other as jokes because were friends obviously. And then i get banned from messaging,
not him. Just me. A other point is, we played a pegi 18 game, plus a game where you literally shoot people and all the ai’s are swearing. So why are we not allowed to swear in text chats for? It doesn’t make any sense. Am i the only one that thinks like this
as well?

The email you should have gotten explains everything