Account Mulitplayer Settings not letting me change them

it also says when i try to go on the privacy page its says the url is wrong or missspelled

funny enough, on the xbox website when i click sign in, it just circles and reloads the page without letting me sign in lol

Just as a heads up many users are having troublr entering their privacy tab. There is probably some minor outage going on. However, no official announcements have been made by Microsoft .In the meantime we can just perform troubleshooting steps

Try this

Sign in to your Microsoft account at Xbox.com

Select your gamertag, and then select the More actions button (…).

Select Xbox settings, and then select Privacy & online safety

yeah my date of birth says -/-/2005 which doesnt make sense tbh

Yes, things like these usually get fixed relatively quick